"That's my Man" Chile Please!

OK, I know it's been a while since I have posted, but I couldn't let another story pop up in the media without addressing this topic.  We all have a friend, a cousin, sister, aunt, daughter, maybe its your mother or maybe it's you.  That one person we know who is OK with being second, the mistress, the side chick, home wrecker, part time lover, whatever you wanna call them!  That is not your man, that's all y'all man!!! When is it alright to have half of a man? Oh, so we are openly sharing men now?! Chile please! Not me, I have to much respect for me and I honor commitments.  I know, I know, but your probably saying what about the guys who claim its over, "we ain't like that no more" or the famous "We getting a divorce"?  Ladies, we all know when it's over, it's over and we don't stick around waiting for nothing.  We move on! So why is it when "he" tells us that it's over with the wife or ex-girlfriend, we believe him?! But in the mean time,  we can't come over, you never met any of his friends or family, no holidays are spent with him and the only time you see him is usually at night.  Maybe we just want to believe that he's being honest, but you know better.  

I'm just to out done by this latest story about Fantasia Barrino.  And on top of all the madness she tries to kill herself yesterday!  If you haven't read about the story check it out  http://thatgrapejuice.net/2010/08/fantasias-manager-speaks-suicide-attempt/#more-17822
I pray that she gets some help during this difficult time and ask for forgiveness.  I can't feel sorry for her, because she knew from the get go  that man was a married man.   Whether or not he was happy, unhappy, not sleeping with her, not living there, whatever; he told her he was married! If all that stuff was going on in your "unhappy marriage" get a divorce and then give me a call.  We set ourselves up for failure too much and we try to back it up with lame excuses. You giving your all to a married man and he giving you not even half.   We are worth so much more than that and we need to realize it and stop letting men take us for granted by allowing them to have side chicks, mistresses, etc.  If we don't love and respect ourselves, we can't expect anyone else to do it either. 

Look in the mirror.   Honor your beauty both inside and out from the color of your skin and the shape of your body to the love in your heart and the heart of your soul. Love yourself. Believe in yourself.  Know your worth.   Know that you are deserving of respect from both yourself and from others and continue to strive at being a  "Wonderful Women".