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Wednesday, August 11, 2010

"That's my Man" Chile Please!

OK, I know it's been a while since I have posted, but I couldn't let another story pop up in the media without addressing this topic.  We all have a friend, a cousin, sister, aunt, daughter, maybe its your mother or maybe it's you.  That one person we know who is OK with being second, the mistress, the side chick, home wrecker, part time lover, whatever you wanna call them!  That is not your man, that's all y'all man!!! When is it alright to have half of a man? Oh, so we are openly sharing men now?! Chile please! Not me, I have to much respect for me and I honor commitments.  I know, I know, but your probably saying what about the guys who claim its over, "we ain't like that no more" or the famous "We getting a divorce"?  Ladies, we all know when it's over, it's over and we don't stick around waiting for nothing.  We move on! So why is it when "he" tells us that it's over with the wife or ex-girlfriend, we believe him?! But in the mean time,  we can't come over, you never met any of his friends or family, no holidays are spent with him and the only time you see him is usually at night.  Maybe we just want to believe that he's being honest, but you know better.  

I'm just to out done by this latest story about Fantasia Barrino.  And on top of all the madness she tries to kill herself yesterday! 

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

What's Your Passion? "Ummm".............

If someone asks you "What is your passion?", could you answer it?  Most of us would answer "I'm not sure."  We have become so busy with day to day responsibilities that we have become strangers to our passion.  Don't get me wrong, some of us have figured it out and have gone on to pursue their life's passion, but most of us are still searching for that passion or have simply given up on it.  

An Inspiring Read :-)


Dr. Ian Smith has turned his attention from losing weight to gaining joy in his new book, Happy: Simple Steps to Get the Most Out of Life. The New York Times best-selling author of The 4 Day Diet and The Fat Smash Diet and host of VH1's Celebrity Fit Club, questioned his own happiness a few years ago. Dr. Ian, had an epiphany after admitting to himself--while on his honeymoon--that he was a PDA-junkie who was working way too much and too hard.

In the book “Happy,” you can expect to find that happiness has nothing to do with money or beauty, fame or shopping.

Dr. Ian touches on several keys to happiness in his book. They include:

- How to be optimistic
- Why optimism and realism are not opposites
- How to get outside yourself
- The importance of family and community
- Why involvement leads to contentment
- Shedding the treadmill mentality of getting and spending
- Tapping the power of simple pleasures
- Mastering modern life to live in the moment
- What we can learn from the Danish people
- How to be, not just to do

It's a very inspirational book, check it out. Also check out my previous post on happiness  "I'm so happy".....Are you really?
http://beawonderfulwoman.blogspot.com/2010/03/im-so-happyare-you-really.html

Sunday, April 18, 2010

"I Want............, But I Won't Do........!"

"I want a nice house, nice clothes, expensive cars,  just like so and so".  "I want to make a lot of money".  "I want to be successful".  "I want a wonderful husband", blah, blah, blah!  I'm so tired of hearing that or something like that.  Majority of the time when we hear these comments, its coming from someone who is doing absolutely nothing to obtain those things.  Just sitting around waiting on success to come to them or depending on someone else to give it to them.  Well *News Flash*, success doesn't come to you - you have to go after it!! It is so frustrating and a bit disappointing to know that some people think they can "WISH" their way into success.  Why is that?  If you really want to live the life of your dreams, stop depending so much on others and at least try to take care of yourself.  Stop wasting time complaining about what you don't have and be thankful and appreciative for what you do have.  We have to take control of our own future with Faith, Dedication, Preparation, Motivation, Strength, and a lot of hard work.  Nobody owes you anything, but you do owe yourself a chance.  We have to get it together and start relying on "US".  We know what we want, now we have to make a plan to make it reality.  Sometimes we have to take risk and do things we never did to get the things we never had.  Let's go Wonderful Women!   Do Something!  :)

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Let's Party! You Deserve It!

Hey Wonderful Women! When was the last time you got out and had a good time? Really, let's be honest.  And I mean really had a good time, no stress, no drama, no worry's, just straight up fun! Well, if it's been awhile, than you owe it to yourself to get out of the house, minus the kids, and party!  We do so much and don't think twice about ourselves most of the time and if your a parent you know exactly what I mean.  Rather it's work, school, home, kids, or husband and in most cases it's all of the above, we do a lot and when we do go out we sometimes feel guilty about leaving the kids or I have to this, that, or the other the next day.  Leave all those feelings and whatever you have to do tomorrow for another day, because you deserve to have at least one or two days, where its all about you! :-)  

SOOOOO this weekend I'm going in! Party, Party, Party, for my Birthday and I'm not coming home! LOL My wonderful husband and I are going to have a ball, no worry's, no drama, no stress and not a strand of guilt.  We partying like we 21 again! And I can't wait! 






Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Confidence or Cockiness?

A confident woman can be spotted the minute she walks in a room.  She shows her personal power and her self-respect.  "Pretty" or not, that's irrelevant, because she knows she is.  All women are beautiful in they're own right.  A confident woman is proud of who she is and where she came from.  She has the courage to stand up for what she believes in.  As Wonderful Women, we need confidence with where we are in our life, careers, relationships, body-wise, and health-wise.  If you don't love and accept yourself right here, right now it doesn't matter what beauty tip you apply; you will always be missing something.   And that's confidence, but remember confidence is a powerful trait.  We sometimes become so confident that it turns into cockiness.  We all know that cocky woman or maybe that woman is you.  The person who knows everything, the person whose always right about any and everything, and the person who never asks for help.  I think that we should be comfortable with the fact that you can never know everything there is to know.  We should strive to learn more while realizing that we won't ever know everything.   Sometimes we believe that admitting we're wrong can somehow chip away at our level of confidence, but the truth is;  being clear about what you know and what you don't know can be liberating and it's usually appreciated by others.  When we become cocky rather than confident, it becomes so hard for us to ask for help. 
I think the number one reason why people don’t ask for help is fear.   Fear that people will judge them for asking for help, fear that asking for help is a sign of weakness and/or a sense of giving up control.  It's OK to be confident but there is a thin line between being confident and being cocky.  No one likes a know it all or someone who doesn't listen because they believe they have nothing to learn.  Confidence requires focusing on what you're good at, admit your weaknesses and let yourself be yourself in each situation.  Be honest, be humble, be sincere, be wrong, and don't be afraid to ask for help, its not a sign of weakness but a sign of maturity and wisdom.  Wonderful Women let's stay focused and transform our cockiness into confidence by trusting our own decisions and instincts.  Let's go Wonderful Woman......confidence is sexy!!! 

Sunday, March 14, 2010

What a Wonderful Woman you are, Flaws and all!

I was going though my messages this morning and I came across a beautiful text my sister-in-law sent me a couple of weeks ago.  It made me think about all the things that we as women do to make ourselves "beautiful" on the outside.  We sometimes forget about our inner beauty, our motherly image, and we tend to focus too much on a man's opinion of our beauty.  I know, I know, not all of us, but all of us knows a least one person who does.  So, I would like to share this with you and you can share it with those women or woman who maybe has sometimes over looked their inner beauty, motherly image, and/or who has focused too much on a man's opinion.

Here is what my sister-in-law sent me:

The beauty of a woman is not seen through what she wears.  It is seen through how she carries herself and the way she doesn't allow herself to settle.  Don't ever let anyone take for granted the beauty that is within you.  Stand firm and KNOW that your a Wonderful Woman.  Always remember your value and respect yourself.  Sometimes we all need to be reminded how special we really are!    


I found these next pieces after a little research (Surfing! Lol) Very interesting though.

We have to display our motherly image more often than you think because someone is always watching........our children!

The Images of Mother
4 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.
14 YEARS OF AGE ~ Naturally, Mother doesn't know that, either.
16 YEARS OF AGE ~ Mother? She's hopelessly old-fashioned.
18 YEARS OF AGE ~ That old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE ~ Well, she might know a little bit about it.
35 YEARS OF AGE ~ Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wish I could talk it over with Mom.





Why do we focus so much on what he thinks about us, its clear we don't think alike:


"Woman without her man..."
An English professor wrote the words, "Woman without her man is nothing," on the blackboard and directed the students to punctuate it correctly.

The men wrote: "Woman, without her man, is nothing."

The women wrote:  "Woman! Without her, man is nothing."




Friday, March 12, 2010

Unconditional Love.....We All Want It!

Yeah, we all want it, but do we really know what it means to love unconditionally?  Seriously, we wanna be in love, we wanna be loved,we long for love and will go to great lengths to have it in our lives,  but most of us don't even know where to begin.  Unconditional love is not the feeling we get from being entertained or making people do what we want.  It doesn’t go away when circumstances are difficult. It survives and even grows during hardship and struggle.  True story, I was at the market today and I overheard a young lady on her cell phone telling someone that she was finally ready for love.  "I know exactly what I want now", she said.  "I know the kind of person I want to be in love with and what qualities he should have. I just gotta find him"!  "Good luck", I said to myself!  You can't hold on to a "wish list", it does no good .  In fact, it ultimately prevents us from experiencing the unconditional love we seek. So get rid of any notions you might hold about how love should be.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Happy Women's Day

Every year Women’s Day is celebrated on March 8 to respect impeccable beauty, devotion and immense power of women.  It is a major day of global celebration of women. In different regions the focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women to a celebration for women's economic, political and social achievements.  Happy Women's Day to all you Wonderful Women out there doing great things in any aspect of your life, those who are finding their way, and all the Wonderful Women of the world! Keep inspiring, loving, educating and motivating through brilliance, creativity, style, and health!  Let's go Wonderful Women!!

I think this would be the perfect time to talk about The 82th Academy Awards!!!Accomplishments, Beauty, Respect, Honor, and most importantly.......FASHION!!!! Lol  First, I would like to send my congrats to all the winners last night, *clap, clap, bravo* 

Congratulations Mo'Nique!!!!

Mo'Nique won Best Supporting Actress for her role as an abusive mom in 'Precious.' She was highly favored in the category and beat Vera Farmiga, Anna Kendrick, Maggie Gyllenhaal and Penelope Cruz, as she did at the Golden Globes. Last night Mo'Nique became the 5th African American woman to take home an Academy Award.  The other black women to win supporting actress Academy Awards were Jennifer Hudson for "Dreamgirls" (2006) , Whoopi Goldberg for "Ghost" (1990) and Hattie McDaniel for "Gone With the Wind" (1939).  Halle Berry is the only Black woman to win the best actress honor for "Monster's Ball" (2001). Wonderful Women!!!
What about Mrs. Mo'Nique's speech! Excellent and what an inspiration!  
Check it out and let me know what you think.




Monday, March 1, 2010

"I'm so Happy"........Are You, Really?

Let's keep it real, we all want to be happy and we think happiness is the money, cars, clothes and all those other valuable possessions.  We work extra hard to try to obtain it all, but these things don't equal happiness in our lives.  Yes, are lives are much more nicer, but some of us are left unfulfilled, unsatisfied and unhappy. I believe that finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness.  I have to honestly admit that I have just begun to really find myself.  I mean, we all think we know what we want and whats going to make us happy, but until we realize that happiness is our own responsibility and happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have,then we'll never be truly happy.  Happiness depends solely on what you think.  It's funny how we block our own happiness by denying who we are.  We do this every time, when we do what we should over what we feel and we do this every time we act like we're someone whom we're not.  As I mentioned, I have just begun to truly find myself and find authentic happiness within.  First, I started to look at my situation and realized how blessed I really am. There are so many things we should be grateful for, but we often forget them. When you realize how blessed you are, you will certainly be happier.  Secondly, I had to know myself, You will be happier if you understand who you are. Thirdly, I stop comparing myself to others.  Comparing yourself to others won’t do you any good. You will either feel proud when you think your on top, or feel jealous and frustrated when you think you're below them. None of them brings true happiness. So stop comparing yourself to others and simply be your best.  And lastly, prayer, this has help me to calm my mind and get inner happiness. We don't have to front and be somebody else, just be you and accept you and your happiness will find you.   I'm a Happy Wonderful Woman!....how about you?

Friday, February 26, 2010

Commitments?.....Or are they just lies?

Commitments, you know they will pay off with much success, but we still can't seem to persevere.  How many times have you made New Year's Resolutions, committed yourself to something or just simple "favors" to someone, only to see yourself sliding back into your old ways or finding a way out of it? It happens all the time and your not alone.  I recently made 3 commitments to better myself this year and I have stuck with 2 of them.  I know what needs to be done to become a more Wonderful Woman but I continue to make excuses for not doing them, " I'll do it later", "I don't have time" and everybody's favored,  "I'm tired".   I have to get on the right track now or accept failure........NOT! I won't be doing that! For me, I had to look at commitment for what it really is, a pledge or promise to yourself for personal growth.  The most important single factor in individual success is commitment. Commitment ignites action.  Possibly the best description of commitment is "persistence with a purpose".  We have to have a purpose in life, there is an old saying that says, "Stand for something or you'll fall for anything." So now what? We need to first, set a goal no matter how big or small.  Secondly, commit yourself 100%, stick with it, the reward will be well worth the hard work and it will make you a better person all the way around.  And lastly, learn perseverance, persistence and determination, get that 'never give up' attitude.  Let's go Wonderful Women!  No more lies, just commitments!!!!

Hot Tracks!!

New Jaheim: Ain't Leaving Without You
I'm a big fan of Jaheim and I'm glad to hear he's back for real this time! Jada Kiss verse makes it even better,certified banger!  Jaheim's new album "Another Round" is in stores now.  Check it out !



Monica's Back! "Everything"
Monica comes hard vocally on this track!! The video has a great concept with special appearance by Ocho Cino (Chad)! Album "Still Standing is in stores March 23.